How I Love

 “I love fully but not foolishly. Softly but not silently.”

“Let all that you do be done in love.”
— 1 Corinthians 16:14 (ESV)

Love used to be something I gave until I had nothing left.

Now, it’s something I give with my eyes wide open and my feet firmly planted.

When someone asked me, “How do you love?”—I had to pause. Not because I didn’t know, but because I’ve lived enough to understand that the answer has layers. It’s not one-size-fits-all. It’s soul-sized, shaped by experience, heartbreak, healing, and growth.

I love by paying attention.
To energy. To tone. To the things people don’t say out loud.
I remember the stories behind the silence.
That’s my version of love—presence over performance.

I love by creating safe spaces.
Where tears don’t need to be explained.
Where being “too much” is never a thing.
Where softness isn’t a weakness, it’s an invitation.

I love by showing up.
Not just on birthdays or when things fall apart.
I check in without a reason. I show up when no one’s watching.
If you’re in my heart, you’ll feel it before you hear it.

I love with honesty.
Even when the truth is uncomfortable.
Because I don’t believe in keeping peace at the cost of progress.
Growth matters. Even when it stings.

And here’s the truth I had to learn the hard way—
I love with boundaries now.
Because real love never asks me to lose myself.
I can be soft and still say no.
I can give and still keep some for me.

When I love, you won’t have to guess.
You’ll know.
You’ll feel it in how I show up.
You’ll see it in how I care.
And you’ll trust it, because it’s rooted in truth—not just emotion.