How I Love

“Let all that you do be done in love.”
—1 Corinthians 16:14 (ESV)

When someone asks me, "How do you love?" I pause. Not because I don’t know, but because love, for me, isn’t something I say lightly. It’s something I do with intention.

I love by paying attention. I notice what’s not being said. I listen for the sigh in the silence. I remember birthdays, but I also remember the thing you mentioned once that made your voice shake. That’s love to me—seeing people fully, even when they’re trying to hide.

I love by creating safe spaces. Spaces where you can fall apart without apology. Where you can be real. Where your vulnerability doesn’t scare me and your truth doesn’t make me run. Love is safety, not suffocation.

I love by showing up. Not just in the big moments, but in the quiet ones too. I’ll check in just because. I’ll sit in silence with you if that’s what you need. If you’re in my heart, you’ll know it. Not from what I say but from how I show up.

I love with honesty. I don’t sugarcoat. If I care about you, I’ll tell you the truth even when it’s uncomfortable because growth matters more than temporary comfort. I believe love challenges us to become who we were created to be.

And here’s the hard-earned part:
I love with boundaries now.

Because I’ve been the one who gave too much. Who lost herself in the name of love. And I’ve learned that real love never asks you to abandon yourself. So I love fully but not foolishly. Softly but not silently.

When I love, you won’t have to wonder.
You’ll feel it.
You’ll see it.
You’ll know it.

That’s how I love
Present
Protective
Peaceful
Powerful

And always, always real.